Oh Monthly Payments

I’m Sure they started with a kind man trying to help a loyal customer who was down and out. 

“Hey Bob, I’m really needing a good bull. I have to get my numbers up. How much for that big brown one?” 

“Well Lyle, I’m asking 30 dollars for him. He is a prime breeding bull. Worth every penny. He will make you a fine herd.” 

Lyle lowered his head in shame and tried to think of a reason why he suddenly didn’t need a bull. Bob saw this and remembered back to all the times Lyle had done business with him. Even to the time that Lyle had given Bob a half a steer to feed his family when the shop was just getting up and running.

“I’ll tell you what Lyle. You give me a dollar a month on him and you can take him today.”

With that monthly payments began and have change ever so drastically since then. One dollar a month changed to 2, then to 4, then 8. Meanwhile the price doubled and tripled. Until we are here, present day America. Where the amount you pay is always Price+Interest+Tax=Ridiculous. Ask yourself this...If I walk into a cell phone store and told them I want this cell phone with plenty of mins, unlimited texting and insurance. If they said OK that will be $2,640. $5,180 If your spouse wants a phone too and you guys can share the minutes! :) Would you pay that?.....Because you are.

Let’s say you want TV. You say I want these five specific channels and all the movie channels. They say OK but in order to get all five(most popular channels)you will need the EVERYTHING pack. You say ok every channel sounds great, how much?

        Only $3,360! Would you pay that? Here is the kicker. It is Sunday your favorite team is playing their rival but they are not playing it on the common channels because your favorite team is 1000 miles away form you. So you go to the channel that does play it and you dont get that channel!!! What I get every channel! You call your friendly TV provider and they say....Oh you dont get “every channel” Its just called the EVERYTHING pak. But for $360 more I can get you those sports channels you are wanting. :)

Don't forget rent, insurances and Gym fees. The next time you go to buy something on monthly payments, pull out your trusty calculator and see just how much they are going to rip you off for. Is being able to call or text someone worth over 2 grand? Is “every” channel worth over 3 grand? Is that shiny new car worth 9 grand on top of the 10 grand mark up? Have a good day :)

Get Off Of Farmville and Do The RIGHT Thing!

        Over the last few years I have grown increasingly frustrated with DUMB people. I dont know a nicer way of saying that. I can think of several meaner ways though...Scam  artist, Con artist, Asswipes, soul-less wonders, heartless bastards, DirtBags..I could go on but instead I’ll get to the point. I know that doing the right thing is rarely the easiest thing, but there is a reason that it is called THE RIGHT THING....because the other way is wrong!

So many scenarios come to mind when writing this blog. Johnson & Johnson. The man who owes us 30 grand. The hairdresser who trashed my hair then defended and yelled at me for her shotty work. The man that bought my mothers car, never put it in his name getting multiple tickets and eventually got it impounded, now she is responsible for your debt. Bally total fitness, you are a corporation of scammers. The infamous bearded troll...you know who you are....i took the fall for you but in the end we all see through your whiskers. 

There are multiple BAD people in this world. What really makes me sick however, are the ones that leave an endless supply of pain in the wreckage they cause and don’t care. Currently I am dealing with a certain person like this. This person created a life, without any thought or caring of what it’s quality of life would be. She did something dirty for one reason. It seems as though this reason is always somewhere in the shadows of all scams. Money. The life that was created was given a host of pain. All of which could have been avoided had this person not made the poor choices they did. I happen to love this life and by loving it feel pain at watching it suffer. I am doing everything in my power to make the life, a happy and pain free one. These people don’t think of the rippling effect that pain has. 

They are all the same. They throw out false guarantees to make the scam. They act as though they are your very best friend. There is always a reason that the scam must be rushed to completion. When things end up bad they... First ignore, Second play the stupid card, Third blame you, Forth ignore again, Fifth scream attorney in an effort to scare you away from holding them accountable. I will be the first to admit that these steps have worked in SEVERAL of my personal scenarios. I begin to think it is not worth the trouble, I tell myself “just shrug it off, move on.” This time however I will not do that. This person will be held accountable for their actions that have caused pain. It is disturbing to hear the heartlessness and the lack of personal responsibility they have displayed. 

I realize it is hard times for everyone, but I urge you all to think of the many times you have been screwed over and how it felt, when you are in a place to do the right or wrong thing. Please do the right thing. I would welcome any who read this to add your worst “screwed over” experience in the comment box. Maybe that person will happen upon it one day, hear your side and finally do the right thing....HAHAhaha probably not but it might make you feel better to vent a little. :)

Those poor kids...Updated

We all know at least one. One truly honest to god bad parent. The one that is selfish, unsanitary and embarrassing. They know what they are and that is what makes them so terrible. They refuse to change, “not for anyone” they say. Anyone? Not even your kids? The innocent lives that didn’t ask you to get knocked up and drag them into this world, lungs full of your smoke. Certainly not just so you could trap a man into marriage, a life of lies and unhappiness. That is not a reason to make a life. Perhaps to a girl who is immature and desperate to keep a guy she doesn’t really know but has convinced herself is “the one.”

It is not all her fault, most times she comes from a line of users and abusers. Users/Abusers of drugs. Users/Abusers of alcohol. Users/Abusers of the government. Often times all the above an so it is in this case. It is genetically engrained in her to be a user and to make more users. When and where will the chain end? With this girls children or five generations from now? For most of these bad parents it is easy to turn the cheek. You see them at the zoo, the mall, the grocery store and you keep walking. The question posed today is...What about the ones you care about? The babies you know and love.

Do you say the truth? Do you let them know they are horrid parents and are feeding a vicious, monstrous circle. Do you give small subtle hints? Do you bite your tongue until it bleeds, hoping that they will see the sins and correct them? I have now, as of today tried each of these and feel I should share my experience with you the reader. Perhaps my insights will help you in a similar situation.

Subtle hints I have found do not work! They yield ongoing excuses from the bad parent justifying the actions or neglect. They will show in actions that they continue on ruining the lives of their children while telling you how much they have changed. Resulting in mounting irritation and tension between hinter and hintee. I would shy away from this option. Which leaves the direct approach or the passive.

If you bite your tongue in hopes that they will become wise to their ways, you will lose your tongue and have to find something else to bite. This will never happen, they will not change without being faced with the truth. Does that truth have to be your child actually falling out of that second story window to her death while you play farmville? Does it have to be them growing up to be a druggy, alcoholic on welfare? Or can you hear the words of friends and family and change your ways, for their future? Which brings us to the last option.

Telling the bad parent...You are a bad parent. Today I couldn’t stand the tension, the hints, the pain from slowly amputating my own tongue any longer. I let it all out. I said the truths that have haunted me since the first of two were born. You are a bad mom. You are manipulative. You are a compulsive liar. You are verbally and sometimes physically abusive to your infants. You are neglectful of them and let them live in utter disgust. You spend more time complaining of their existence then caring for them lovingly. It is heartbreaking to see. It is wrong. I said it to her and.....

It did no good. Defenses took over, they used the same old threat as always...when someone tries to speak up....”you cant see my kids!” It is not that they cannot change but will not look into themselves and change for their babies. They will not admit to the world they are wrong. If they did that would take work. Work that they are too lazy to do. So instead they get very angry and try to discredit you or say it is none of your business.

It is my business in two ways. One: I love them. I care about them. When you leave them in my care, under my responsibility you are saying. “I trust your judgement, I trust that you know what is best for my kids” If you don’t then you should not be leaving them with me. Therefore you should trust my judgement when I say you are doing things very wrong. I say this only because I care about you and them. I want the best for each of you.

Two: It is my business as a citizen of this world. If you bring a child into this world(two in this case) they are my problem. If one becomes a terrorist my life is at stake. If they grow up to suckle at the govt teat I have to pay for them to live. The person you are raising today will vote tomorrow. Their vote could change MY world. Every child born effects everyone in this world not just you! If you are going to have one raise it right. Love it. Feed it. Clean it. Teach it. Your life is not just about you anymore it is about them!

Your family is your judge and jury. They are there to love you, support you AND hold you accountable. If you are wrong they should be the ones to tell you and you should listen. They know you best. As parents no one is perfect, as humans no one is perfect, This I understand completely. The point is not to be a perfect parent but to put your whole heart, your whole life into doing the best you can do. That is all anyone can ask for and all your children need from you.

In conclusion if I could do it again, I would have said the truth sooner. If I never get to see them again and she is better to them then so be it. Them having a happy childhood, them growing up to be good productive people, them living long healthy lives. That is why I say the hard things, the things people only say behind your back. For them.

UPDATE: To clarify I know several parents that have things very skewed. If you take this blog to mean you then i'd say you feel that you apply to the points and should work that out :)